What prevents us from making a decision that will improve our life?

You love your life, or at least manage a level of satisfaction while balancing responsibilities. Good kids, spouse, neighbors and job. It's a familiar routine and you realize that's the problem. You're mindful, methodical and predictable...and no aspect of your life is improving. You know things can be better. Why do we find it hard to make changes?

We have an idea, but not a clear vision

Regardless of our abilities, there's the voice in our heads saying, "Maybe this is the wrong thing to do, or the timing's not right." Build a stable, if small, platform for change before you reach a point of desperation, anxiety or material scarcity.

We're afraid to be brave

We hate to disappoint our bosses or loved ones by starting something new. We doubt our abilities, never having tested them in a different direction. We question why we want to be the new kid in the room, when we know this room so well.

We don't realize a small decision is a positive start

We think it's too late to start over or make one minor change. We worry something as basic as volunteering once a week in a potential job field or accepting an internship at our age appears foolish to friends and pointless to peers, when it's a smart step towards redirecting both life and career goals.

We don't make a plan and commit it to writing:

Dreaming about change is the start of doing something, but dreams are abstract flashes of fancy without a written plan. A timeline is a fine-tuned commitment to reaching your goals. And that future becomes realistic when it's on paper and placed where you see it and work it every day.  

We don't ask for help

Sorting through life's clamor and confusion is difficult with the daily concerns of career, kids and home. A life coach transitions you through life's twists and messes. The transformation from acceptable living to extraordinary existence begins when we commit to small and steady change, believe enough to write it out and seek guidance from a mentor.   

Andrea Silvershein